Do An “Opposite” Speech

by Promod Sharma, CC

Stephen Covey said that we see the world not as it is but as we are. You’ll reach more of your audience if you look at the world differently.

Have you done a speech making points contrary to your views?

Think back to your last vacation. Would you recommend that trip to others? If yes, highlight the negatives instead. If no, highlight the positives.

Discomfort Zone

Here’s another idea. Think of something you consider an extravagance and usually avoid. That could be to:

• take a day off when work is piling up
• go to dinner and a play
• get valet parking
• go to a less nice restaurant than you normally would

What’s extravagant for you will be normal for some other people. Tony Robbins said that people do things for reasons that make sense to them. That doesn't mean those reasons make — or need to make — sense to us. You enrich yourself when you try to see why others like or do what you don’t.

Debates

Debates are part of the Toastmasters experience. At Goodyear Toastmasters, the room gets arbitrarily divided into two groups. You may be forced to briefly adopt a view contrary to your own. The topic could be gun control, for instance. This experience can help you see the world differently but you’re only involved briefly. You’re also competing to win, which can affect your motivation.

Doing something with conviction is much more effective than merely talking.

Benefits

We benefit from looking at things in different ways. An "opposite" exercise helps you see different perspectives. That's helpful during Table Topics and real life situations like negotiations at work or home.

You can create a speech from your experiences.

Links

• The how and why of Table Topics
• A must-do for speakers (even beginners)
• Why go to Toastmasters in the summer
• image courtesy of Michael Brown

To learn more about Promod Sharma, visit promodsharma.com.

How To Discuss Taboo Topics

by Promod Sharma, President 2011-2012, CC

You can discuss taboo topics in Toastmasters if you're inventive. What you want to achieve? That's the core question.

Let's say you want to talk about politics. What's your goal?

• Do you want to test your persuasive skills?
  
• Do you want feedback on the logic of your arguments?
  
• Are you trying to share your passion?

Your approach would vary for each.

Persuasion

If your topic is controversial, you'll have difficulty convincing members with strong opinions. Why not let them persuade themselves?

You could give a Viewpoint. Here you share you give background and your opinions for a few minutes. The Chair then leads a group discussion. You take notes and summarize the results at the end.

A Debate is another option. Here attendees think of arguments to support their side and negate their opponents. The discussions tend to be lively but not deep. The goal is to win rather than have a civilized discourse.

Involving your audience gives you a better understanding of how others think. You will likely see that opinions vary. You might even change your own thinking.

Logic

If you want to test the logic of your arguments, get group feedback. With a Viewpoint, the Chair runs most of the segment. You may wish to maintain control by giving a Lesson instead. Express your thoughts and leave enough time for a group discussion (which you lead).

Perhaps you want the audience to role play. Perhaps you want us to pretend that we're undecided voters or opposing voters.

Passions

You might be passionate about a polarizing topic like abortion. Remember that your Toastmasters club is a place for you to develop your skills. Your topic may get in the way and prevent you from getting better.
When you're passionate, your enthusiasm will affect the audience. You might not see flaws in your thinking because you see your views as "obvious". You could easily be wrong.

If your topic is controversial, you may get labeled a zealot. How does that help you going forward?

Substitution

You may be better results by discussing an uncontentious topic instead. Perhaps a topic that members know little about. For instance, you might talk about a hobby like woodworking. Since you know the subject, you can focus on developing your skills.

Links

• Viewpoint: The living legacy of Goodyear Toastmasters
• A must-do for all speakers
• Three mistakes seminar speakers make
• What goes wrong when presenting outside your club
• image courtesy of Streuli Silvan (Switzerland)

Promod Sharma has used Toastmasters to discuss topics ranging from the boring (e.g., insurance) to the polarizing (e.g., social media). His website is at promodsharma.com.